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nGayOn lang me nagkatym pra magopen ng blogs….so ngyon lang din me mgwento bout my son’s bday…

Well, sa skul kmi ng celebrate ng bday nya kc i want him 2 blow his candle with his skul friendz…nakakapagod ang preparation, me kc personally gumawa ng mga baskets at kung anu-ano p..nagorder kmi sa jabi, favorite kc ni jorel un e hehehe, akala me tlgang kukulangin kmi, buti nlang tlga super rescue mommy q at cla nanay, talagang salamat ky Lord at sa mga taong nakapaligid samin na tlagang nagmamahal sa baby q…super happy nga baby q kc ask ko xa f he enjoys da party e, nakakatuwa kc friday (sept.29) ginanap un bday nya sa skul pero sat (Sept.30)un bday nya, kaya un natira cake ng friday, hinati ni jhit tapos pinagblow ulit c jorel sa ofis hehe, tapos sunday, buy kmi maliit n ice cream inilagay ulit ni jit dun un candle, blow ulit c jorel hehehe, sv 2loy ni jorel dmi dw nya bday….nung magbday nga c marlon at tumawag kmi 2 grit, umiyak xa kc ayaw nya dw sing ky dady bonbon kc xa lang dw ang may bday, ndi c dady bonbon hehehehe….

tAwag nga mga family nmin sa Cavite 2 grit khit super bagyo dun at wla kuryente, nkagawa cla paraan 2 grit my son & dat really touched me, khit ndi p masyado aware c jorel sa importance nun, i can explain 2 him when he grows up na gnon xa kamahal ng pamilya nya at ng mga taong nakapaligid sa kanya…pdala nga dw cla gift 4 jorel, sv ni jojit wag nlang hehe, pag-uwi nlang nmin dun ang gift pra wla dw kmi masyado bitbit sa pag-uwi nmin ng cavite hehehe….

Ang tangi q lang nmn wish sa buhay q is for him to grow a best person he cud, God-fearing, at mapagmahal din sa mga tao sa paligid nya, at xempre matuto tumanaw ng utang na loob, well i know its with our guidance, siguro i will do my best din 2 teach him & cultivate him 2 be a best person na gusto q…sna lang our family wud still be der to guide us also kc tlgang mahirap n masarap maging magulang, now i know un mga suffering ng mga parents nmin mag-asawa sa min habang pinalalaki kmi ng mga parents nmin hehe….i cant wish for anything n cguro kc i have my son, my loving husband at may pamilya kaming talagang sumusuporta smin thru thick & thin, naks!!!

ce na po, until here nlang po….work muna po ulit me….

1. Don’t just love each other, like each other too.

2. Tell her/him why you love her/him often.

3. Be affectionate to her/him.

4. Say I love you to each other, at least once in every 24 hour period.

5. Tell your lover you are their love Genie and you will grant him/her three wishes. Things get quite interesting.

6. Make memories together.

7. Never forget that the simple things in life make life worth living.

8. The most cherished gifts are the ones that come from the heart, not the wallet. make gifts for her/him.

9. Have a night that is worth $1,000,000 dollars, but on a $10 dollar budget.

10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

11. Instead of going out on a date, plan an evening at home, turn off the lights, burn scented candles, watch the sunset, then take a long walk to gaze at the stars.

12. Never, ever forget “holidays”! (The ones that the two of you make up too)

13. Do everything to make him/her happy.

14. Don’t evaluate or criticize your partner.

15. Defend and respect your partner.

16. Be there for the good and the bad times.

17. Find a nice secluded spot that is only yours and take her/him there every month.

18. Call from your vacation spot just to say Hi.

19. Always ask her/him how the day was. and listen!

20. Too much of a good thing can be bad.

21. Travel more than 1 hour out of town together.

22. Dance in the rain. (Even in your best outfit)

23. Watch the sunset together.

24. Have a candlelight dinner for two at least once a year.

25. Flirt in public. (Yes, that means holding hands)

26. Cook for each other.

27. Whisper sweet nothings.

28. Always close your eyes. Staring is rude.

29. Share your deep dark secrets with each other. (Not all)

30. Laugh together.

31. When you say “I’m sorry” look her/him in the eyes.

32. Don’t let little mistakes become big mistakes.

33. Do anything to impress her/him.

34. Go for a drive together just to get lost.

35. Make love.

36. Make sacrifices for each other.

37. ALWAYS be honest with each other.

38. Give each other pet names.

39. Tell her/him your fantasies.

40. Tell her/him what you like and don’t like.

41. Write a story about how you two met and fell in love and give it to her/him.

42. Hugs are the best medicines.

43. NEVER EVER cheat on her/him.

44. Play silly games.

45. Find out what’s special to her/him and do it.

46. Spend all night thinking of 50 sweet things to do for her/him.

47. Always have a notepad and pen or some stationary with you wherever you are. This way when you’re waiting in line you can write them a quick love note.

48. During weeks when you feel you haven’t had enough time with each other, send a bouquet of flowers or other gift to their work, home or school.

49. When you look into they eyes, tell her/him how you feel deep down and gently kiss their cheek.

50. Put a note in her purse telling her to meet you somewhere for lunch.

oh Well… Balik kmi here in bUkidnon, hehe kc nagSkUl c liNus e…Pinauwi kmi sa Cavite antagal nb nmn nmin d2 noh, 4 months n kya…kya nga pagdating nmin don super miss na miss q watch ng movie pano anlyo ng SM d2 sa BukiDnon, 2 1/2 hrs 2 get der..tpos pagdating pa dun may CitY ordinance na below 5 yrs old e ndi makapasok ng Movie hOuSe, e 3 YO plang kaya c Linus, hehe db kainis…kya sa cavite namin binuhos lahat ng paglalakwatsa, thank God bait c nett kc pina CA me hehe, alaws kc kmi arep paguwi, super buy ba nmn ng pasalubong c jit…miss q talaga lahat-lahat sa cavite mula sa mga bata hanggang sa mga galaan, c linus nga wala na ginawa kundi makipaglaro sa mga pinsan nya, kc wala xa kalaro d2 sa buKiDnon kundi yun mga classmate nya e 2 hrs lang nmn ang skul nya… sa 2wiks na stay nmin sa cavite, kulang na kulang talaga, andami n ngyari ndi kami aware na mag-asawa habang and2 kami at itry man namin i catch up w/in 2wiks, ang hirap, di bale sv nga ni jit malamang finish contract na kmi sa MinDanao by dEcember hehe, ang hirap kc malayo kami sa fAmily, pag may gathering don, wala kmi…e may pagkasadita pa nmn c nett hehe lagi kami iniinggit, hehe pero not da literal na sadista ha, bait yan…I’m so glad na I had this family hehe seryoso toH!kc lagi q nga cnasabi e kahit kay jit na maswerte kami kc kahit minsan nagkukulang kami, meron kami pde kapitan para magpuno ng kakulangan at kahit papano may uunawa samin…huhuhu…nung umuwi kami ng cavite mas lalo q naapreciate ang pamilyang to(matagal q na naapreciate noh, since na maging BF q c jit hehe) kc mahal nla anak q, sv q nga kahit pirated ako sa mga Dardo(hehehe, tawag ni jhec sa mga asawa nlang magkakapatid) basta mahal nla anak q ala nko mahihiling pa…Nwei, tama na drama, switch nlang ulit kay Jhorelle…Nakakataranta pla sa first tym na u had ur kid on skul noh kc andmi dapat concerns, nung naghanap me ng skul 4 him first na tiningnan q un teaching materials agad hehe, xempre nasa MinDanao e baka Vsaya ang turo haha, thank God English nmn….at khit Vsaya mga classmate nya, mabilis nmn xa nakakaadopt sa environment kc the tEachErs are good…nakakatuwa kc when I first get his rEport cArd nsa Cavite kmi, PinaLBC q kasabay ng mga reports ng opis hehe…kALA me mababa ang grades nYa kc it averages 86.25 kya pagbalik namin d2 I ask agad da Administrator why ganon. Yun pla ang highest nla on the first grading is 88, and guess wat?tOP 3 xa sa Class nla hehe, 12 cla ha ndi 3 hehe..sA mga exams, quiz, at oral recitation nakakaperfect xa kya lang meron xa mali dun sa ibang subject hehe… pero ok na din noh at least kahit papano bright anak q, sbi nga nla nett at jhec buti ndi mana sa papa nya hehe…

oh well d2 nalang muna, yakag na c linus magsleep eh hehe….

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship that was less than you expected? Or maybe you know of a friend or family member has become involved with someone who did not treat them appropriately and may have even been abusive. This is an all too common situation that can happen when searching for that right person. Many times these individuals do not show their true colors until later on in the relationship when intimacy has been established, thus making them harder to leave. Unfortunately, I have known of friends and family members who never intended to get involved with someone of that nature, yet it can happen to anyone, especially if one is not careful. Fortunately, there are warning signs, which can signal that this individual is not healthy and good for you. As you search for that special person, keep this list handy.

Signs and Characteristics of an Unhealthy Relationship

· He/She is jealous of your close friends, family members and all other men/women.
· Moody, unpredictable. Moods are extreme or change quickly.
· Selfish. Cares more about his/her needs and wants than yours. (Only concerned with “I”, instead of “we”).
· After the initial first or second date, doesn’t want to take you out again, just wants to stay in and watch movies/ have sex.
· Pushes intimacy before you are ready or is sexually aggressive.
· He/she starts planning your future right away.
· He/she hates his/her mother or father and treats him/her badly.
· He/she always wants your undivided attention.
· He/she must always be in charge.
· He/she always has to win.
· He/she always asks where you went and whom you saw.
· He/she can’t take criticism and always justifies his/her actions.
· Only calls you when he/she is drunk (a booty call) or doesn’t ask you out ahead of time.
· Uses you for sex, but doesn’t take you out on dates.
· Never has money, expects you to pay for everything.
· Has a bad or violent temper (especially when he/she doesn’t get his or her way).
· Isolates you from friends and family.
· Brings you down by criticizing you or putting you down (verbal abuse).
· Blames you for his/her problems or things that aren’t your fault. Blames you for everything that goes wrong in his/her life.
· Too needy or dependent upon you.
· Too demanding or unrealistic expectations. Expects you to be his/her “Slave, Maid or Mother/Father-figure”. May even expect so much of you that you are unable to take good care of yourself.
· Is Manipulative/controlling. Tries to influence you to do things you don’t feel comfortable doing like missing work or breaking the law.
· He/she often says you don’t know what you are talking about.
· He/she makes you feel like you are not good enough.
· He/She withdraws his/her love or approval as punishment.
· Doesn’t care about your feelings or makes you feel bad for having feelings.
· Is secretive about his/her past (may be an ex-convict, pedophile, con-artist or sex-offender).
· Has had multiple failed relationships.
· Cannot keep a job.
· Flirts with other men/woman when you are with her/him.
· Cheats on you or insists upon having or hiding relationships with other men/women from you.
· Lets you know up front that he/or she is not interested in marrying you, but wants a sexual relationship anyway.
· Brings out the worst in you.
· Not trust worthy. Takes/steals from you/ uses you. Takes more than he/she gives back.
· Asks you for money, credit cards, loans or other financial assistance too early on in the relationship.
· Pushes you, holds you down or hits you (physically abusive).
· Influences you to compromise core goals, morals or values.
· Won’t talk to you about the relationship or whatever you may want to discuss, always avoids serious conversations.
· Judge-mental of your life and struggles, although has his/her own share of problems.
· Emotionally distant or goes to someone else to get emotional support. Avoids closeness instead of connecting (intimacy).
· Doesn’t follow through with promises. Breaks them all of the time.
· Always angry for something you did or didn’t do.
· You find yourself apologizing to others for them or making excuses for them.
· You give them chance after chance.
· You end up paying for their sins or forgetfulness.
· You resent them or nag them.
· He/she is addicted to sex, drugs, alcohol, gambling, etc.
· Is unable to admit they have weaknesses. They believe they are perfect instead of admitting their faults.
· Is defensive instead of open to feedback.
· Is self-righteous vs. humble.
· Only apologize, but never change their behavior.
· Avoids working on their problems instead of dealing with them
· Demands trust instead of earning it.
· Blames others instead of taking responsibility for their lives.
· Lies instead of telling the truth.
· Is stagnant instead of growing.
· Stays in parent/child roles instead of treating you like and equal.
· Gossips instead of keeping secrets.
· Is unstable over time instead of consistent.
· Flatters you instead of confronting you.
· Condemns you instead of forgiving you.
· He threatens you with harm or destroys your property.
· You feel like you are always walking on “egg shells” when he/she is around.

Signs of a Healthy Relationship

· Communication is open and spontaneous (including listening).

· Rules/boundaries are clear and explicit, yet allows flexibility.
· Individuality, freedom and personal identity is enhanced.
· Each enjoys doing things for self, as well as for the other.
· Play, humor, and having fun together is commonplace.
· Each does not attempt to “fix” or control the other.
· Acceptance of self and other (for real selves).
· Assertiveness: feelings and needs are expressed.
· Humility: able to let go of the need to “be right”.
· Self confidence and security in own worth.
· Conflict is faced directly and resolved.
· Openness to constructive feedback.
· Each is trustful of the other.
· Balance of giving and receiving.
· Negotiations are fair and democratic.
· Tolerance: forgiveness of self and other.
· Mistakes are accepted and learned from.
· Willingness to take risks and be vulnerable.
· Other meaningful relationships and interests exist.
· Each can enjoy being alone and privacy is respected.
· Personal growth, change and exploration is encouraged.
· Continuity and consistency is present in the commitment.
· Balance of oneness (closeness) and separation from each other.
· Responsibility for own behaviors and happiness (not blaming other).

What is LOVE?

• Love is loyal.
• Love is wanting the best for the other person.
• Love is compromising and working things out in a way that you both can win.
• Love is finding common ground.
• Love is trying to come together in a way that makes the world a better place.
• Love is selfless.
• Love is caring about the other person’s emotional needs and feelings.

What Lust is…

• Lust is self-gratification.
• Lust can be obsessive.
• Lust is usually tied to sexual gratification.
• Lust is selfish.
• Lust doesn’t consider the other persons wants and needs.
• Lust doesn’t care about how the other person’s day went.
• When someone’s in lust they aren’t interested in meeting family or friends.
• Lust is wanting something to the point that you don’t care who gets hurt.
• Lust manipulates, destroys and controls.
• Lust often involves raging.
• People who lusts may think they are in love, but the fire burns out quickly when they get the person or thing they lust for.
• Lust doesn’t last, but love can.

Tell your mate how glad you are that he/she is a part of your life and how lucky I am to have him/her.

· Tell your mate that I love him just the way he/she is and that I wouldn’t trade him/her for any other man/woman in the world.

· Compliment your spouse often for his/her physical attributes (anything you find sexy).

· Compliment your spouse for the things he/she does (from playing with the children, to fixing the car)

· Compliment your spouse for the things he/she says (if funny, complimentary, a dreamer, a problem solver, a verbal person, non verbal, etc.).

· Compliment your spouse for the things he/she stands for (honesty, loyalty, dependability, a risk taker, confident, etc.).

· Make a list of some famous character who are especially masculine (ex. For men: Tarzan, King Kong, Rocky, Rambo, Superman, Casanova, Adonis) or feminine (ex: for Woman: Cat Woman, Betty Boop, Jessica Rabbit, Wonder Woman, Holly-Go-Lightly (Breakfast at Tiffany’s), Venus). Find opportunities to compare your spouse to one of these characters, saying something like, “Oh honey, you’re as strong as the Incredible Hulk,” after he does something that requires masculine strength, or if she does something that shows her feminity.

· Listen to your spouse, with your heart, not your head.

· Validate his/her feelings when he or she has a bad day at work. Just offer understanding without giving advice.

· Avoid constructive criticism or trying to “fix everything”.

· Touch your spouse – every single day!

· When your spouse comes home from work or being away for the day, greet them with a 10 second kiss (let them know you would like to try this as an experiment. It will make you feel closer the rest of the evening!).

· Wear, use or display a gift from your spouse.

· The next time your spouse makes a suggestion, follow it.

· Remember to be a lover at least part of the time…

ello….actually I have lot of things to do pa, pero cningit ko talaga 2 hehe…Hirap pla pgkatiwalaan ng malaki responsibilities, lagi me labas ng ofis almost 8 or 7pm na kz ndi agad me magtally sa report na dapat q isubmit sa main ofis sa Cavite. sabi ni Ms. Jannett e sa main ang problema q lang humarap sa mga taong nagagalit dahil sa slot na napalipat, pero d2 grabe 2 da maximum level, lahat pla prolema, ndi pa nga lang sa ngayon un mga land owner hehe….At hanggang ngayon wala pa din me yaya, ang hirap kaya…wala pang CD player d2 sa ofis hehe kaya ndi q agad minsan mapatigil pag nagtantrums kc barney lang nakakapagpatigil sa kanya.Ok nmn mga tao d2, on my almost 3rd wik hir, lahat nmn cla mabait sakin at nakakasundo ko lahat. To tell you honestly natatakot me pumunta d2 nung una kc as tagalog feeling q sa mga taga-Mindanao puro abu sayaf hehe, katakot kaya….Sbi nga ni jhit lumabas nmn dw me paminsan-minsan, maarawan mn lang, e natatakot pa din me until now lumabas ng mag-isa, kc nga different environment compare sa nakasanayan q at ng baby ko, lagi nya hanap mga pinsan nya lalo na cla mumai at em, last tym tumawag kmi ky ayish e kc nmn ayaw tumigil sa pag-agaw  ng cp unless tumawag kami…ng magsend c Nett ng mga pix nla ni Mumai at Em, aba gusto na umuwi sa Cavite panay ang yakag..at until now para maaliw lang xa, dinadala xa ni jit sa oval every afternoon…

yun nalang po muna, gawa muna me trabaho q…..