To Keep The Love Alive
Tell your mate how glad you are that he/she is a part of your life and how lucky I am to have him/her.
· Tell your mate that I love him just the way he/she is and that I wouldn’t trade him/her for any other man/woman in the world.
· Compliment your spouse often for his/her physical attributes (anything you find sexy).
· Compliment your spouse for the things he/she does (from playing with the children, to fixing the car)
· Compliment your spouse for the things he/she says (if funny, complimentary, a dreamer, a problem solver, a verbal person, non verbal, etc.).
· Compliment your spouse for the things he/she stands for (honesty, loyalty, dependability, a risk taker, confident, etc.).
· Make a list of some famous character who are especially masculine (ex. For men: Tarzan, King Kong, Rocky, Rambo, Superman, Casanova, Adonis) or feminine (ex: for Woman: Cat Woman, Betty Boop, Jessica Rabbit, Wonder Woman, Holly-Go-Lightly (Breakfast at Tiffany’s), Venus). Find opportunities to compare your spouse to one of these characters, saying something like, “Oh honey, you’re as strong as the Incredible Hulk,” after he does something that requires masculine strength, or if she does something that shows her feminity.
· Listen to your spouse, with your heart, not your head.
· Validate his/her feelings when he or she has a bad day at work. Just offer understanding without giving advice.
· Avoid constructive criticism or trying to “fix everything”.
· Touch your spouse – every single day!
· When your spouse comes home from work or being away for the day, greet them with a 10 second kiss (let them know you would like to try this as an experiment. It will make you feel closer the rest of the evening!).
· Wear, use or display a gift from your spouse.
· The next time your spouse makes a suggestion, follow it.
· Remember to be a lover at least part of the time…
